When I'm out with my young children, friendly strangers often approach us to smile and say hello. Although I'd like my kids to be polite, I also want to teach them not to talk to strangers. How can I avoid sending mixed messages?
- Suzanne
"Don't talk to strangers" has been the mantra of many parents for generations. But contrary to this age-old wisdom, sometimes it's actually a good idea for kids to talk to strangers. Who else will they turn to if they're lost and need help? So, instead of making a blanket statement, it's better to teach kids when it's appropriate to talk to strangers and when it is not.
When your kids are out with you, it's fine to let them say hello and talk to new people. You are monitoring the situation and will protect them. But if your child is alone and approached by a stranger, that's a different story.
Tell your child that if a stranger ever approaches and offers a ride or treats (like candy or toys) or asks for help with a task (like helping find a lost dog), your child should step away, firmly yell "No!" and leave the area immediately. Your child should tell you or another trusted adult (like a teacher or childcare worker) what happened. The same goes if anyone — whether a stranger, family member, or friend — asks your child to keep a secret, tries to touch your child's private area, or asks your child to touch theirs.
Most kids are likely to be wary of strangers who are mean-looking or appear frightening in some way. But the truth is, most child molesters and abductors are regular-looking people, and many go out of their way to look friendly, safe, and appealing to children. So, instead of judging a person by appearance, teach kids to judge people by their actions.
Perhaps just as important, encourage kids to trust their own instincts. Teach them that if someone makes them feel uncomfortable or if they feel like something's just not right — even if they can't explain why — they need to walk away immediately.
So, what happens if your kids are alone and need to approach a stranger for help? First, they should try to find a person in uniform, like a police officer, security guard, or store employee. If there are no uniformed people, grandparents, women, and people with children may be able to help. And again, remind them about instincts: If they don't have a good feeling about a certain person, they should approach someone else.
To see more and see similar articles please click on the link: http://kidshealth.org/parent/positive/talk/stranger_smarts.html#cat171
- Suzanne
"Don't talk to strangers" has been the mantra of many parents for generations. But contrary to this age-old wisdom, sometimes it's actually a good idea for kids to talk to strangers. Who else will they turn to if they're lost and need help? So, instead of making a blanket statement, it's better to teach kids when it's appropriate to talk to strangers and when it is not.
When your kids are out with you, it's fine to let them say hello and talk to new people. You are monitoring the situation and will protect them. But if your child is alone and approached by a stranger, that's a different story.
Tell your child that if a stranger ever approaches and offers a ride or treats (like candy or toys) or asks for help with a task (like helping find a lost dog), your child should step away, firmly yell "No!" and leave the area immediately. Your child should tell you or another trusted adult (like a teacher or childcare worker) what happened. The same goes if anyone — whether a stranger, family member, or friend — asks your child to keep a secret, tries to touch your child's private area, or asks your child to touch theirs.
Most kids are likely to be wary of strangers who are mean-looking or appear frightening in some way. But the truth is, most child molesters and abductors are regular-looking people, and many go out of their way to look friendly, safe, and appealing to children. So, instead of judging a person by appearance, teach kids to judge people by their actions.
Perhaps just as important, encourage kids to trust their own instincts. Teach them that if someone makes them feel uncomfortable or if they feel like something's just not right — even if they can't explain why — they need to walk away immediately.
So, what happens if your kids are alone and need to approach a stranger for help? First, they should try to find a person in uniform, like a police officer, security guard, or store employee. If there are no uniformed people, grandparents, women, and people with children may be able to help. And again, remind them about instincts: If they don't have a good feeling about a certain person, they should approach someone else.
To see more and see similar articles please click on the link: http://kidshealth.org/parent/positive/talk/stranger_smarts.html#cat171
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